Sandra Everets, RN
Tell us about your own journey and how your experiences have changed the way you look at motherhood and parenting.
Having children has always been a dream of mine, when I was younger I wanted 4 children but I think two is the magic number for us! Being a mom is an incredibly rewarding, tough, demanding and beautiful thing! I don't think you are ever fully prepared for motherhood and it's something you just jump into it head first! As mom's we always try and do what's best for our families and keep them loved and safe and this can seem difficult in the fast paced, internet savy world we live in. Throughout both my pregnancies I struggled with nausea and vomiting but once I held them in my arms for the first time I would do it all over again. My first child was an easy happy baby, I loved being home with her and enjoyed my maternity leave and made lots of new momma friends. I struggled with breastfeeding right from the start with a low milk supply and a tongue tie but we managed to find a feeding routine that worked for us. When my second came he was the complete opposite! He had reflux and was colicky and even though I had more luck with breastfeeding thanks to awesome community supports again we had to come up with a routine that worked for us as a family. Some days were a struggle and full of tears (by both of us!) and by the end I was happy to give back my exercise ball and stop bouncing! Both of my experiences have given me a greater understanding of who I am as a women, a mom and a nurse.
Tell us a little about your nursing career.
I would have to say I fell into nursing, it was never on my radar until my first year of university. Its been love ever since! I truly love every day I nurse! I've been an obstetrical nurse since I graduated working in labour & delivery, high risk antenatal and post partum care and in a high risk pregnancy program serving families across Canada. I love helping families through the most incredible experience of their lives, holding their hands through difficult parts and just being by their side! We have a unique opportunity as obstetrical nurses to make a huge impact on a new family and I love giving that support and guidance!
What are the two most important lessons you've learned working with moms, babies, and families?
Being flexible is so important when working with moms, babies and families. Right from pregnancy, to your labour and delivery and finally to taking home your new baby do what's best & works for your family! Sometimes you'll try something and it works and sometimes it doesn't but it's okay! I try and share my experiences with my families and help them find out what works best for them! Also, providing unconditional support to new parents and families. Each baby, parent and family is different and unique and there is never a one size fits all approach but instead tailoring to fit each family.
If you had one bit of advice to give to a new parent, what would it be?
Find your tribe! My tribe of fellow mom's plays such an important role in my life, we help each other out, lift each other up and keep each other going on the good days and the bad days. Yes there are bad days! It takes a village to raise a family and that village includes includes friends and family. Being a mom is hard but you are never alone, we're here by your side all the way!
Self-care is a big challenge for parents. How do you maintain your own energy and outlook?
Self care is something I have to constantly work at because its easily put on the back burner once you have kids.We can easily lose ourselves in this parenting gig. I think it's so important for our children to see us doing what we are passionate about and taking time to ourselves because that's exactly what we want them to do! Six months after having my daughter I joined a local mom's triathlon group and trained for local triathlons! I love having my children & family cheering me on from the side lines as I race. I've also found time to reflect on my journey through reading and keeping a journal.
Is there anything we've missed that you'd like to share with Mama Coach clients?
As a Mama Coach my goal is to help make your job as a mom easier! We live in a society where there are so many pressures and norms already put on us a new mom's and the mama guilt is real. I hope I can help guide and navigate through the information overload, unnecessary guild and pressures so you feel supported in parenting in way that works best for you and your family.
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