Lyndsey Malone, RN
Tell us about your own journey and how your experiences have changed the way you look at motherhood and parenting.
I had my oldest daughter when I was still in nursing school. I experienced the extreme fatigue and overwhelming emotions of being a brand new mom and full time student. I had to return to school and my 12 hour clinical rotations just a short week after having my sweet baby. My daughter was 3 weeks early and because of this, she had jaundice and had to be on lights at home for the first week. I was struggling to get my milk supply in while also trying to get her to latch and feed. I was worried about her getting enough milk to bring her jaundice levels down and had total misconceptions about supplementing with formula. I wish I would have had someone who could have stepped in to help me better manage nursing and feedings. Being a mom to a newborn is HARD, whether it's your first or sixth. Knowing first hand how hard it is, four times over, I am so passionate about wanting to help other moms in any way I can.
I never took a prenatal class during my first pregnancy, mostly because I happened to be in my OB semester of school and was getting more than enough education on the subject, but also because I was not aware of many opportunities to take a class. I had a busy schedule, between full time school and a job, and anything I ever did come across just didn't work for me. I want to offer moms (and dads) a way to get the custom education THEY need at a time and place that is convenient for THEM. Knowledge is power, and we need all the (super)power we can get as parents!
Over the past 8 years of being a mother, and 7 years as a nurse, I have learned so much relating to women and children. I have seen the fear and worry in a mother's eyes as she holds or hovers over her sick child. I have witnessed the overwhelming feelings a mother has as she processes new information, feels as if she has a million questions and wonders if she can truly be all that her child needs. I have seen the exhaustion motherhood brings, and the joy. I have not only seen these emotions in others, but I have felt them myself as a mother. I want to be that extra support and help, that buoy that keeps you afloat when you feel like you are drowning. Better yet, I want to help you BEFORE you get to that point. The newborn phase fades all too quickly, the early years fly by, and children grow too fast. I want you to be able to enjoy every little moment, and you can't do that if you feel helpless and exhausted. I want to give parents the tools they need in order to succeed. To feel confident in their ability to care for their child while keeping everyone healthy and happy. I became a nurse so that I could help others and make a difference in others' lives. Women and children are my passion in nursing and I would love to help you.
Tell us a little about your nursing career.
I graduated with my Bachelor of Science degree in Nursing from Brigham Young University in December 2011. I began working in April 2012 as a nurse in a large emergency room which is now a level 2 trauma center. I have continued to work in the emergency room over the past 7 years. I have cared for patients of all ages with a vast expanse of medical problems and illnesses, including those associated with pregnancy, postpartum complications, new babies and young children.
What are the two most important lessons you've learned working with moms, babies, and families?
It may sound cliche, but "mother knows best." Trust your gut as a mother. I believe you have been given innate characteristics and abilities to care for and love your child. Often I am asked by family and friends if they should take their child to the doctor or ER for various reasons. I do my best to walk them through their situations and help them make the best decision for them and their child, but ultimately I tell them to trust their instinct. No one knows your child like YOU do. Second, your child feeds off of your attitude and energy. When you are stressed, your baby can feel it. When you are happy and confident, your baby can feel that too. This same concept applies to older children as well. I have found that on the days I am positive, happy and energetic, my kids are much happier and more likely to listen and get along than if not. So even on those rough days, do your best to put a smile on and make sure your child knows that he or she is loved and the most important thing to you!
If you had one bit of advice to give to a new parent, what would it be?
Don't blink! Truly savor every moment, the good, the bad, the beautiful. It goes by SO fast, and while every new age is fun and exciting, it is heartbreaking to watch your children grow up so quickly. The complete exhaustion from lack of sleep will end all too soon, so take a deep breath, and breathe that baby in!
Self-care is a big challenge for parents. How do you maintain your own energy and outlook?
Self-care is vital to being a good parent. This is something I have realized more and more as I have aged. My best days involve some sort of exercise, whether it's a quick 15 minute work out with my girl Maggie Binkley on Amazon Prime (I highly recommend her!), or whether its a nice walk or jog with one (or four) of my kiddos and my jogging stroller. Being active makes me feel better, more confident and gives me more energy, which in turn makes me a better mom. I also try to eat as healthy as I can, but I don't deprive myself of anything, moderation is key. I do my best to listen to my body and eat intuitively, and I really try to focus on getting enough protein every day. I also take time each day to pray and study my scriptures. This really helps to ground me, and helps me to focus on the bigger picture of why I am here and the importance of what I am doing each day as I care for my children and interact with others.
Is there anything we've missed that you'd like to share with Mama Coach clients?
I love babies! I would have ALL the babies if my husband would let me. I can't wait to meet you and your precious little one, and I look forward to helping you.
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