Kate Macdonald, RN
Tell us about your own journey and how your experiences have changed the way you look at motherhood and parenting.
I am a Mama of three beautiful little people! My journey as a mother has been full of joy and challenges. Until I became a mama I didn't realize what challenges that I would endure. I have had many with three babies with varying degrees of reflux, post partum anxiety, breastfeeding challenges and major sleep issues.
Motherhood and parenting aren't always easy. I have learned that some days are easier than others. Each child is different and you have to find what works best for them. There are going to be days that you are rocking this mom gig and other days when it is a struggle to get out the door. Be kind to yourself and try not to put mom guilt onto yourself. The biggest struggle I had was asking for help!! I found this to be very challenging but it did get easier! Self care is important and every mama deserves it!
Tell us a little about your nursing career.
I knew from a very young age that I wanted to be a nurse. My mom was a nurse and I couldn't think of a career I would rather do!! Each nursing job I have had has opened another door to a different job. Pediatric Oncology, Neonatal Intensive Care and Pediatric Post Anesthetic Care have shaped me into the nurse I am today. I LOVE working with families and providing family centered care.
Kate saved my sanity. Everyone that knows us know our baby girl was colic and a horrible horrible sleeper. It was taking me 1-4 hours to get her settled down to sleep at night. She would be up several times a night wanting her soother or a bottle. My husband works away, I was barely functioning and felt like I had no time with my 5 year old son. I started working with Kate and literally only a few days later our 6 month old was sleeping 12 hours a night plus taking a 2 hour nap in the morning and a 1 hour nap in the afternoon. I was skeptical anyone could help our babe especially taking her soother away I had a lot of anxiety as it was the only thing at the time keeping her quiet a few minutes at a time. However; I was merely amazed with the tools Kate gave me to get her sleeping and taking her soother away. Our little girl is much happier and so is her mama! The only thing I would have changed is starting a lot sooner! Thank you SO much Kate!! I have so much more time with my son and enjoy my quiet evenings.
What are the two most important lessons you've learned working with moms, babies, and families?
Every baby and family is unique. It is so important to listen to and support each family. Finding out their needs and goals is key to being able to support them through journey.
If you had one bit of advice to give to a new parent, what would it be?
Be kind to yourself and each other! It is a huge transition when you bring your new baby home and it can be challenging sometimes. Having a baby is a full time job (day and night). There are going to be good days and some not so good days and that is completely normal. Be kind to yourself!! You are doing an amazing job, probably the toughest job there is!!
Sleep deprivation is so hard!!! Lack of sleep effects everything- your emotions, communication, as well as your physical and mental health. It is ok to ask for help!
Self-care is a big challenge for parents. How do you maintain your own energy and outlook?
It took me a long time to allow myself to have and take some time for myself. Self-care is SO IMPORTANT!!! As a first time mom I was so nervous to leave her in case she had to feed and if and when I did have time to myself, I would be racing around trying to finish up so I could get home to her. As time went on it got better but it was hard to allow myself time without having mom guilt.
Now after having three kids, I look forward to my time and it is makes me a better mama. I try and set aside time each day even if it is just an hour. Date nights are important and although we don't get them maybe as often as we should, we still try. I love planning a night or two away with friends to catch up and then I can't wait to get home to my little ones!!!!
Is there anything we've missed that you'd like to share with Mama Coach clients?
I struggled with sleep with my babies and I know how hard it can be. With each baby it was harder as I had a little one or two that needed me too once they woke up. It wasn't possible to nap when they napped. There were countless nights that I would I would have to hold my little guy upright all night because of his reflux. I got to a point I just could not keep going that way any longer. I reached out & hired the Mama Coach. She taught me how I could teach my baby to sleep. I was absolutely amazed at the results and how quickly he learned how to sleep independently.
It changed my life!!!! It changed my whole family's life and it gave me my life back! I was so thrilled with this life changing experience that I decided that I wanted to help other families who are struggling and became a trained Infant & Child Sleep Coach.
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