My Mom has always told me, “being a Mom is the toughest job in the world.” She has said this numerous times to me since my first-born came into the world. Turns out, she was right again. Anyone can tell you how hard it is going to be, but until you are in the thick of it, you don’t quite get it.
On September 22, 2016, at 4:33 AM, I became a Mom for the first time. It’s a moment like no other; time stood still. This beautiful, fresh, five-pound baby girl was placed on my chest and a wave of emotions ran over me. There is not one thing in this world that could have prepared me for the love I would feel for that tiny human. It is a love like no other. I immediately felt thankful that she was healthy, but also anxious, as my husband and I were now parents- forever. I felt worried (already) that I wasn’t going to be a good enough Mom to this little girl. I also felt overprotective and did not want her out of my sight. I remember crying because I love her so much. Becoming a Mom for the first time was the most incredible thing I have ever experienced. I had yet to find out, just how hard it was going to be.
This new role in life brought with it challenges that I never expected or even thought of. As Moms, we give and give and give. It is a very selfless gig and we are devoting so much time and energy to this new baby who is dependent on us for everything. I didn’t realize how much it would change me as a person, how much of an effect becoming parents would have on our marriage, and how much my friendships would change. These changes are not necessarily bad, but rather different. These changes only exist because I had a baby- something I would never change. I think these changes are all inevitable; it is just how you deal with them that matters. Our marriage has taken work, my friendships take effort to maintain. I guess it would have been unreasonable for me to think that my life wouldn’t have changed drastically.
I still find it unbelievable how something so small rocked our world like that. Babies are very impressive to say the least. Since than, an eight-pound baby boy has rocked our world, for a second time. On May 3, 2018, at 8:18 AM, I became a Mom again. We knew what we were in for (as far as what a baby is like), but have since found out that two is a completely different ball game. Sometimes it feels like ten against two, even though it is an even playing field. From the time I am up in the morning, I feel as though I am being pulled in different directions until bedtime at night. One minute I am thinking that I need some space and the next that I miss them (if they are actually both napping at the same time). Sometimes it can be frustrating, but majority of the time I just love being their Mom.
Being a Mom is the toughest job in the world, but it is also the best. I consider myself very grateful to be able to share in this wonderful (and messy) thing called motherhood, with all the other Moms around the world.
My name is Ashley. I am a Registered Nurse and the owner of The Mama Coach Kelowna. I am so passionate about helping others and would love to make motherhood easier for as many Mamas as possible! If you think you could benefit from my services or have any questions, please feel free to contact me! I would love to get to know you and your family!